There is no place like home! Instead of trying to give a hotel ballroom a personal touch, why not use your home for the wedding reception. This arrangement will also cut down your expenses a lot.
The reception site is settled and you will gladly leave all practical work to someone else. Try to find a caterer who can cook up the feast of your dreams.
It is not unusual that the newlywed is a little bit nervous for the first dance. Perhaps you are not such a good dancer. If so, sign up for a dancing lesson or ask a relative or friend for help.